2 BIGGEST reasons I haven’t accomplished my dreams (yet)
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I don't want to make people around me feel bad about themselves.
Like Losing weight. I lost 250 pounds. Now, I'm “too small” I “need to eat” I’m “anorexic”-- I “look like a drug addict” I'm “skinny”. I “look sick” I “don't have any boobs” so I'm “not a real woman”.
I was afraid to hurt the people that I care about. I was always afraid to hurt anybody. SO I HURT MYSELF! WHAT? I was afraid to stand out. I was afraid to be attacked or punished. I was afraid to “lose love”. So I would always downplay my own accomplishments to make other people feel better, or I just wouldn’t accomplish things.
Apparently, they don't hate themselves enough. THEY HAVEN’T HAD ENOUGH PAIN!
If they really hated themselves enough, and they were really fed up with things like being overweight, not having a business, not living in the state (or Country) they want to live in.
If they wanted those things, they would go get them. They will be fed up with not having what they want. They will be angry at themselves for not having those things. And then they’ll go get those things, just like I did.
THERE are 2 FUNDAMENTAL FLAW WITH my philosophy:
1) Afraid to lose THEM? I AM THINKING OF MYSELF INSTEAD OF THEM!
2) AFRAID TO HURT OTHERS? I AM HURTING THEM! If I’m afraid to hurt them now, I lie (even if it’s being silent about something they need to hear) I am hurting their future.
I have A RESPONSIBILITY to share my testimony AND TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN WHAT I WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN--FOR EXAMPLE I WANT A FLAT STOMACH AND EVENTUALLY A SIX PACK ABS… SO I NEED TO EAT THE WAY A FLAT STOMACH PERSON EATS, THEN I NEED TO SHOW IT TO THE WORLD AND TELL THEM HOW I DID IT.
PEOPLE NEED TO WITNESS THE WINS SO THEY CAN WIN.
AND IT IS BEST FOR THEM TO WITNESS THE WINS OF SOMEONE THEY KNOW…
Maybe you DO hurt them (JUST BY BEING YOU AND WINNING: example: YOUR WHOLE FAMILY IS OVERWEIGHT AND YOU LOSE 250 pounds AND KEEP IT OFF)
MAYBE THEY QUIT TALKING TO YOU.
Selfishness is thinking of what YOU WILL GAIN OR LOSE when it comes to your relationships--THIS LEADS TO LIES! (LIES ARE EVIL AND THEY HURT OTHERS)
(NOT love) fear--
WOULDN'T IT FEEL BETTER KNOWING THAT IN THE FUTURE THEY WILL BE IN GOOD SHAPE PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, SPIRITUALLY AND THEY ARE LIVING A LONGER, more energetic LIFE & ARE 100 X HAPPIER BECAUSE YOU WENT FIRST AND SHOWED THEM THE WAY? EVEN IF they never speak to you again?
Love: Doing what’s best for others--even at the risk of losing them forever.
